Hello all! I know I have not been blogging lately but that is not to say I don’t miss it, miss you. I think of you often but life likes to get in the way. But, something happened last night and I really need a second opinion.
My oldest, Taylor, who officially turned 17 just two short weeks ago, was lying in my bed last night and we were talking. She suddenly announces that she would really like to get a tattoo.
Me , pretending to think about it… Ummmm, no.
“But, Mom” she begins, “I already know what I want and I have been thinking about this for a long time! I want a Japanese Cherry Blossom in rainbow colors with a peace sign in the middle.”
No brainer here…No, no, sounds gay, double no.
Look mom I’ll show you what I mean. So, she starts looking up Japanese Cherry Blossoms on the internet and she is pulling up some very pretty pictures. As she is looking at the photos, she says that maybe she won’t get rainbow colors, and after seeing the photos she doesn’t want the peace sign either. She just wants a small, realistic looking, Japanese Cherry Blossom on her right ear. Some examples below:
In a further effort to discourage her, I say “But, you realize that is what I want for my tatoo on my ankle?”
Oh, did I not mention that I want a tattoo also? Yes, I do. I have none, yet. But I have wanted one for many years and finally chose the Japanese Cherry Blossom for its beauty and symbology.
She said, “Yes, I know. How about we get mother/daughter tattoos!”
Uhhh…WTH! Did my 17 yo daughter, who usually does her dangedest to avoid doing anything with her family these days, just suggest spending an afternoon together getting tattoos?
Then she says, “What does a Japanese Cherry Blossom stand for anyway?” I said, “Something about powerful women and beauty. I don’t remember exactly, look it up!”
So, she does and this is what she finds:
The Chinese feel that the cherry blossom is a flower that represent feminine power and beauty. They believe that the blossom is an example of extreme beauty. It is on the one hand very beautiful and even very delicate but yet it holds extreme power at the same time. In Chinese herbal lore the cherry blossom is symbolic of love and passion.
For the Japanese the cherry blossom holds very different meaning. The cherry blossom is a very delicate flower that blooms for a very short time. For the Japanese this represents the transience of life. This concept ties in very deeply with the fundamental teachings of Buddhism that state all life is suffering and transitory. The Japanese have long-held strong to the Buddhist belief of the transitory nature of life and it is very noble to not get too attached to a particular outcome or not become emotional because it will all pass in time.
“Mom, this is so me! This speaks to me! Now I have to get it!”
We then talked about how painful it was going to be, especially on her ear and how tattoos were for life. She is so young and was she sure this was something she wanted to have for the rest of her life? What about what people will think in her career? She wants to be a Dr. and she said on her ear, it would be something very easy to cover up if anyone had a problem with it. It’s not a huge thing anyway about the size of maybe a dime or nickle at the largest.
I don’t know what it was, but all of the sudden, letting my 17 yo daughter get a tatoo doesn’t seem like a really big deal. Especially because it’s small and pretty. It also renewed my desire to get my tatoo. It had never seemed like the right time in the past, but now? Maybe is it because spending some one on one time with my daughter sounds good also? I’m not sure, but right now, I am inclined to say yes. Am I crazy for thinking this? My husband is on the fence also so he is no help.
So, what do you think?